Is Jesus Married to a Man?

A visitor to my blog recently posted a comment in response to a post on gay marriage. He argued for gay marriage using this quite simple line of reasoning: As a Christian, I am married to Jesus. Jesus is a man and I am a man. That is same-sex marriage. Thus, marriage between men is okay.

I am not making that up.

I was tempted to just let this one go. The gap in this logic seems pretty obvious. But I think there may be an opportunity here to clarify the deeper principle at the root of marriage as a creational covenant manifesting the eternal image of God in a temporal relationship. So, here is my reply to him, copied from the comments section below the post “Missing the Point: Fussing About Gay Marriage”:

Jesus is married to a woman, the church. It is a matter of corporate identity. I am not married to Jesus as an individual, but as a covenant member of the body of Christ. My baptism was my covenantal incorporation into the church, the bride. The bride, the Lamb’s wife, is the city, the New Jerusalem, the church.

In Christ, there is no longer “male or female, slave or free, Greek or barbarian, Jew or Gentile,” but all of that is a matter of corporate salvation in the New Covenant, not personal identity. Our standing before God in Christ is equal, but our roles are still diverse, and our maleness and femaleness continue to manifest distinct aspects of the image of God.

This is why Paul continues to address men as men and women as women throughout his writings. The discussion of headship in I Corinthians 11 (God-Christ-husband/male-wife/female) makes no sense if God does not still recognize gender roles in the New Covenant. In the resurrection, when gender distinctions no longer play the same covenantal role that they do now, marriage will end as a gender-distinct, unity-in-diversity relational manifestation of the image of God. Then, Jesus said, we shall be as the angels. So, until the resurrection, as long as there is marriage at all, it must remain between gender-distinguished men and women.

Marriage is intended to manifest the relationship between Christ and the church, which is a marriage between a man and a woman. Thus, gay marriage strikes at the heart of God’s self-revelation, mars the male-female image of God revealed mysteriously in marriage, and makes it impossible for the willfully blinded to see God in the creational covenant of everyday relationships. That is, of course, Satan’s goal in the gay marriage agenda: to blind the world to the revelation of God manifest in marriage.



Published by Steve Pixler

Steve Pixler is lead pastor of Freedom Life Church in Mansfield, TX. Steve lives in Mansfield with his wife, Jeana, and their six children.

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  1. Amazing what people could learn from the bible if they would try! You are an amazing preacher!(:

  2. Wow, that was indeed a huge gap in logic. But then, I read an article which stated that the reason that Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed was not because of their “immorality in loving the same sex, but rather because they were terrible hosts”. It went on to explain that the city was destroyed because they failed to show proper etiquette towards the angels and visitors to the city before. Apparently they believed God cared above all about being gracious hosts.

    This is all the same logic of the so called “Christian Left”. (They even have a facebook page now) Faulty arguments built upon limited knowledge of the word of God and fleshed out by personal agenda’s, desires and wants. They allow Satan to attempt to turn God’s own weapon into a weapon that blinds. As you said, they are willingly blinded.

    Thanks for your great articles! Keep them coming!

  3. Wow! This is a new level of twisting from the left. I guess I am not surprised. As with anything I have seen the liberals bring to the table, it may seem plausible on the surface, but just scratch a bit and it gets exposed. This however, doesn’t even seem like a plausible, rational line of thinking, even from the liberal camp.

    Well stated Rebuttal. You scratch well sir!

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